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Sep 17, 2009

goobermonkey08 says:

ok I am a house wife and I spend most of my day cleaning, any body else do the same thing? I mean it just seem like there is no end to cleaning a house, every day I find something else to clean or I clean the same thing every day. I also have two kids under the age of three and I know that the house is never really gonna be 100% clean. Is it just me? am I losing it? do I spend too much tie in my house? I just can't go anywhere without cleaning first, and by the time I finish cleaning somthing its time for lunch and then AI have to clean the kithchen and the mess the kids made and by that time its time to start making dinner, and it all repeats itself. any other house wife feel the same way?

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  1. Sep 17, 2009

    chiks says:

    You need to get out more. :) My mother in law told me a spotless house is not a home, it is like it is not even lived in plus whatever it is will always wait for you later, having a life comes first. It's nice to have a clean spotless home but it can get obsessive after awhile. You spend so much time cleaning you forget about life. Spend time with them babies, they grow really fast trust me and you say where did all that time go. Once they are grown you can't go back and say I wish I would have....... Take them outside and forget about the house for awhile. Life is not about cleaning, enjoy it. Your not losing it, you are using it to keep you busy, so get busy with them babies. Now... go enjoy life and look at them babies and tell yourself they are worth it and worth alot more than a vacuumed carpet. The carpet and dishes and laundry can wait for you when you are ready. :)

  2. Sep 17, 2009

    goobermonkey08 says:

    Your right, yesterday I was so into cleaning that I didn't notice that the mom of the little boy I take care of had come to pick him up and I was at the front door cleaning windows. Its just that I have friend with kids and their houses are always clean, I have toys everywhere and there is always a load of laundry to do every day. but I just promised my kids that I will take them to the park, so I am gonna go out for an hour just to hang out with them. thank you.

  3. Sep 20, 2009

    chiks says:

    Another thing my sister in law said to me years ago, it is only toys, pick them up when the kids go to bed, it is not dirt or dust and can wait. She felt if you run after them constantly about making a mess they don't learn how to play and share and learn and use their imaginations. Friends can do as they think they need to do, always use good judgement, watch their kids when you go there and see if they even know how to use their imaginations and pretend games and sharing correctly and not being nervous wrecks for maybe making a mess or leaving a toy out. Children see and hear and copy everything you do, They also need to see you are not a nervous wreck from chasing them all day trying to keep things clean, they need to know you are human and it is ok for them to play and learn as they make the mess but also need to learn before bedtime we put all the toys to bed for the night as well. Stop, breathe and smell the roses and clean when needed, not for the sake of cleaning over and over again the same thing, not good for you or the kids. Have fun. Do the laundry after the kids go to bed, throw a load on and relax. :) My mother in law and my sister in law taught me alot because I was exactly the same as you when my kids were little. Then I sat down one day and thought to myself, sheesh, what the heck am I doing, they are right, I watched my kids worried about playing thinking I might get mad even with the old exasperated sigh, it sends signals, at them for just playing with a wee small toy box of toys. They were actually scared I would get mad. I woke up. We had a great time after that.

  4. Oct 5, 2009

    nichole1 says:

    I absolutely know how you feel! I have two daughters: Angela (8) and Amy (6). When they were little I had one in pull ups and the other one in diapers. It was a very lively time,lol. :-) I enjoyed every minute of it but finishing all of the housework was hard. I was so busy running after two little ones that it was hard to get things done. I tried and it still wasn't enough. I eventually had to remind myself that the housework will always be there even when they're grown and gone. My children will not be little forever. So I made an effort to get done what I could and the rest would just have to remain "undone".

  5. Nov 28, 2009

    truebloodfan1987 says:

    I'm a house wife that's also in college with a five month old. Thank god for my husband or nothing would get done. We slipt the apartment in half, he has his and I have mine. Each night, when baby is asleep, we do a quick sweep through our halves and pick up/put back everything. Once a week I try to deep clean everything (vacuum floor and furniture, sweep and mop, bleach counters and bathroom, etc.). it helps...

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