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Nov 17, 2009

Babygirl122682 says:

Well ladies I have finally told everyone in my life exactly what I think and I feel really great about it. Several family members of mine and a few old class mates started telling me that I will never reach my goal of getting fit and loosing 30-35 pounds. All they were telling me is that I would never stay with a diet and exercise plan but I am proving them wrong. I was always told when I was young that I would always be fat , never find someone that would truly love me for me, never graduate from high school and that I would have 3-4 kids by the time I turned 21 but I have proven so many people wrong. I did graduate high school(when I was supposed to), I have found someone that loves me for the person I am on the inside and I am 26 almost 27 and I only have one child. As far as being fat...I have been over weight most of my life and I am going to change that. I don't want to be like some of my relatives and be in a 3x at the age of 50. I know that some of this makes no since to some but to the rest I hope that my life can be helpful to you. I have finally realized that I can not be happy with the rest of the world untill I am happy with myself. Untill I am truly happy with me I can not be truly happy with the people that are in my life and I comunicate with everyday. I know that I have people cheering me on and people wishing that I fail, but I am going to keep my head held high and not let anything stand in my way. Oh and before I finish with this post...me and my fiance' have decided when I am happy with myself and I reach my goal then we will start planning our wedding. But the main thing is that I have to be happy with myself. Hope I did not scare anyone but I just had to get this off my chest.

Comments

  1. Nov 17, 2009

    SMOOTHY00 says:

    They are just being NEGATIVE. Negativity never got anyone very far with losing weight, but YOU are being POSITIVE to make changes in your health. Labeling someone as a "failure", is plain out wrong. Just like when a child is labeled by a teacher as a "bad kid, or terrible job", then that child starts to become that way, it's the same with adults. Don't let their attitude rub off on you; you can & will succeed in bettering your health & some men do like women with some fat on them, that's what makes us soft. They like that! Keep your head up high. It's good to release stress, even call a friend to tell them what's bothering you. Obviously your fiance likes your body, b/c he is with you & wants to marry you. Let that be your incentive. Lose the weight so you both can devote your lives to each other & make each other happy. Look in the mirror & look at your qualities, not the image, & focus on the good things you like about yourself. Very proud of you for taking that leap to talk with your family about your goals. SQ will help you have great energy to get workouts done & make you feel wonderful. =D~TLF

  2. Nov 17, 2009

    chiks says:

    Love what you did and you just keep doing that if you have to. you answer only to yourself, others need to worry about what's going on in their own lives. You did the right thing sweetie, proud of ya. Keep going strong. :)

  3. Nov 18, 2009

    Babygirl122682 says:

    Thanks for the support ladies. I am so happy and so blessed to be able to read great things in the morning. It makes me smile even more. Also I did somewhat cheat yesterday but not too bad. I ate part of a taco salad but I have not cheated on my diet since I started it. The good thing is that the gym is calling me and I am going to go and get in my earily morning workout. Hope everyone is doing great and sticking to their goals and keep your head up. We can do what ever we set our minds to.

  4. Nov 18, 2009

    carolh says:

    Babygirl, I can relate to what you all said in your post. No one told me I was going to be a failure, but I never received any positive reinforcement for anything I did either. I am the youngest of 6 girls and was always compared to them and told of all the things, good or bad, that they did.I was always trying to get my mothers approval and to this day I still don't hear congratulations or kind words when I reach a goal at work or school. Because of this I have had low self-esteem my whole life. Having a first husband who lusted after an old girlfriend who was blonde and petite when you are brunette and heavy doesn't help either. I always felt I was never good enough for anyone or for anything that I had so I am of course a professional at pushing people away. Lucky for me my current husband knows all my tricks and doesn't let me get away with the games. He is constantly telling me how great I look lately and encouraging me to push myself at everything I do. I am going to school because of him and I'm 46!!! Don't let anyone get you down Babygirl. When you hear those voices in your head saying you are a failure, tell them how wrong they are and look at yourself in the mirror to see how wonderful you look now that you have lost weight. We need to fight those negative people together and we will come out the winners because we are so much better than them!!! Thanks, guess I needed to unload a little too.

  5. Nov 18, 2009

    Babygirl122682 says:

    Carol my name is Sara and I just wanted to say thank you so much for the support. I am the youngest of 3 and the only girl but I get compared to all of my relatives even my brothers. I am a recovering alcholic and I was hooked on pain pills and nerve pills but I am thankful to say that I am 10 months sober and almost 2 years clean. But both my brothers are addicted to pills and my mother still compares me to them.I don't care waht anyone trys to tell me that they think will bring me down because I have the best support group right here. Thanks for the inspriation everyone.

  6. Nov 19, 2009

    carolh says:

    Sara, I am also a recovering drug addict and alcoholic, apparently we have a lot in common. I've been clean and sober since since Jan. 1993. Actually met my husband in treatment and although it is highly frowned upon to marry another recovering person, we keep each other sober and some what sane!!! But we started out as friends and basically fell in love over the phone over a 14 month period. Now we are rarely away from each other. Anyway, you can stick with your recovery program and your diet program because we are all here to support each other.

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